I miss my babies so bad. If you have concerns or doubts about your abilities, you may need to reconsider getting child custody. I can see you have tons of info and have been kind to dedicate to showing the info you know. The fact is the whole time i was consider unsubstantiated ever abuse my son. I have a broken phone reading up on all this and I am so lost. I never got to know my son he was taken from me an hour after I gave birth to him. Let them be honest. Asking about these classes at your community centers or your therapist or even some social worker can guide you towards such programs. It seemed to me that the children would be better served by putting the non-abusive spouse into a private, secret residence where the abuser couldnt find them. We must not just stay alone and lost in our pain. Even if he stays with his mom until hes 18 he will leave her home and as a young adult will need the help of others to transition into full adulthood. I believe all parental authority over the child totally ends at age 1`8, It can in some circumstances be younger, if the child petitions the court to be emancipated!! And wow-if anything is proof of how much you love them-it is your depression over losing them. I do not want to face God not having put forth my best effort. And right now it may be dark but one day we will all see the Light. Hi I lost my kids to cps as well it started in 2008 they were ages seven three and two family friends started lies cps believe them and they took my kids finaly adoptioning them the family that started the lies in august my oldest got ahold of me and I seen my girls it felt like a huge pain was lifted but there adopted family cut me off well tried my oldest still texts me a lot its great my youngest doesnt know of me its just hard cuz know Im confused and dont know what to do and Im scared my daughter has been brainwashed or Im not good enough and I will fail her please help me I missed my two youngest first days of school and Im missing out on their life I cant get that back I have hidden this pain for a long time Im ivyness of our women who have there kids I dont wanna be that person where is the happy full of life person. Try to get plenty of sunlight. How to jump through their hoops even though they lied. So did the guilt. Much love!!! Vicky Id go to the press. In the first stage, the person does not believe in the truth of the loss. They came in and investigated my home was orderly, my children were healthy and clean, my ua came back negative. Foster parents dumped my kids, I raised them for years after horrific abuse took place. I really dont know what to do. Please help!!!! Fight with all your might! They are with family 2000 miles away from me and my heart is broken, but at least they are not with strangers. The misery of family disunity and dysfunction plus the interference of do-gooder government agencies make this country treacherous for many, many parents. Theres no domestic violence at all tho. I WAS WRONG. Find a way to help others it will take your mind off your problems and bring some joy into your life. That's why }, { hello my children were taken by dhr and two placed in Jefferson county and one is still in Blount county but when cps came to }. My sons were adopted by my husbands twin(fraternal not identical) brother and his wife and she happens to be an attorney in the same town as the cps case and get this in the SAME DEPARTMENT!!! Though you may feel alone, there are other parents out there who have been through this. Well they still took her & my son. Im still in shock by the lies that were allowed in as evidence..my heart is broken and I feel so run down but refuse to give up. RIP 2014. I was honest! Now Im a better person and I could be a better mother to my children. . Because my sons (they took my two youngest, ages 6 and 13) want to be home with me. It is true whatever doesnt kill you will make you stronger. None of the information on this website is intended to be legal advice. My sweet little miracle baby. Monica has years of experience working with families in transition. I am not that religious but I would like to think that Christ would have some sympathy for my situation. I have therapists available to me 24/7 should I become depressed overwhelmed or in any way unable to cope with my emotions or life. My kids have begged the caseworker to come home and she says they ignore her. I began to drink a bit. Now a`days I put it in them to say no. Dont let them do it to you. Even if (God forbid) you never see your children again, they may meet someone who knows you, or somehow find out information about what kind of person you are. I know my kids will come looking for me when they turn 18. It all started when cps took all 5 of my children for domestic violence and im never going to get over it. They were good young boys they didnt deserve what th ey got. Depression Poems For Those Who Struggleand Those who want to better understand the illness 1. Symptoms of divorce-related depression can include any, or a combination of, the following: Symptoms of depression can vary from mild to extremely severe. I am a great mom. Even took hope. Each article is written by a team member with exposure to and experience in the subject matter. Believe me, I know I had 2 children taken by my ex without giving me a fair chance to be a parent to them. Do NOT use marijuana!! Yet I can never share my shameful past. Well much to my horror CPS stepped in and turned everything around on me and destroyed my family. Please email me i could use any tips and i could also use a friend right now bedwellopal-at-gmail.com, Did you receive my email? End of Life Mourning the Death of a Spouse When your spouse dies, your world changes. So God could give and he could easily take. its harder then i thought. They have to be between 8 and 330. Anger expressed in a healthy way is my defense mechanism to keep going on with life. Anything you create is never yours. She called back and said she would take him to the Dr. and I needed to pack his favorite things as she was going to get him in an hour and after the Dr. visithe would go into his permanent foster/adoption home. The Commissioner suddenly retired, and I am told quite a few other people are gone. Indeed, your child is not physically with you. Dallas, I dont know how much longer I can take this. The county it happened in is a joke. I have made 4 attempts to contact her and her supervisor(2 attempts each in 10 days) to see if I could see my grandson and say a decent good bye. but key word is almost. couldnt get anything else on me so they made that up..and violated my constitutional rights and my childs constitutional rights by asking him questions app dad told them they was not allowed without me or an attorney present and thats too bad of a court order which they did not and could not produce and said they didnt have to have one.. You have no idea how much I needed to find this page tonight. Itll be 21 months next month and they are pushing adoption. In 1992 but for 15 months they danggled the baby in front of us like a carrot and a donkey.what I am getting at is can they do that. depression after losing custody of child. Don't take our word for it, read testimonials from our past clients to get an idea of how we can help your family get through this difficult time. The cookie settings on this website are set to "allow cookies" to give you the best browsing experience possible. I cant live. That started because of a couple of high-profile cases where PD women killed their children. I still am supervised today when I see my babies. You are not alone and there is always help. Hopefully one day in my lifetime I will see this broken system crumble! But i do know that i want something done about my children having these strange marks all the time. I hope to hear from you soon!! Losing a pet can be a traumatic experience for any child. If you report to a CPS supervisor that is nothing; the supervisors are worse than the caseworkers, most of the time. Reasons mothers lose custody - Abusing 2. They have been ahold of me my entire life. I would go so far as to use your grandsons photo. First, it is important to talk to someone who can understand what you are going through. As their mother or father, you have parental rights, and judges are not in the practice . I was thinking of instead trying to appeal. The boys , the fpur youngest, have been placed with their dad who was the abuser and up til they gave them to him he only had supervised visits. Well Im bout ready to give up..I dont wanna even think about what might happen from this point..yesterday was my last stateso here I sit..witj sleep mess and wine..smh..if I what else to do..Im gonna go crazy n Id rather for before that. How can you show that? You may feel guilty for being the one who is still alive. I do think that my grandson is better off in a permanent adoption home, BUT it took me a few days to digest that idea and I strongly feel the way they removed him was cruel and inhumane! I suggest you set up a Facebook page or blog of some kind with all their baby pictures and your side of the story about what happened. Substance abuse is another issue that many parents face after separation and divorce . I am forever wounded. My kids never needed anything even if my mom had to help from time to time which she did often without me asking. But one day I got on my knees and prayed talking to God like if he was my best friend asking him to forgive me that I couldnt live like anymore that I surrender myself to him that I leave all my problems in his hands. I need luck. 7. Go see them, you dont have a restraining order do you? The shoe doesnt feel so well on the other foot. Just love that one child if it is the only one you can have in your home right now. A few things you can do for yourself include: It is estimated that once a parent has lost custody, it can take the better part of two years to regain custody, sometimes even more depending on context and issues surrounding the separation. For the longest time i was the only one saying no for everything. I ended up contacting Senators, Representatives, Missouris Attorney General, and our Governor, and then the Social and Health Services in Washington D.C. Please try it. I am in alot of heartache and could really use sound advice. I, too gave up a little girl for adoption. Our lives dont always work out the way we wish. Now my grandchild is in the system and I am told I am not grandma. I went through and lost. When i had gotten to TN i had to live with a friend and her husband and children in a camper. All I can do is get better and look to the future. And remember Jochebed, Moses mother, who had to give him up? My daughter is now with her father and adopted by his wife. God had reasons that I still do not fully comprehend, but I trust him. My children are in fact Alive and they need me, I am not given up this fight.. Houston Stand up for our rights as Mothers. Im so tired. Jon Vaughn, Contributor. Can determine what's best for you and your family. Im doing what I can to help the greatest number of people at one time. It has now been 2 years and I was appointed a respite care giver to the other grandparents who were going to take guardianship. My attorney has changed her attitude somewhat for the better. Linda Jo Martin is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program Put this on a site thats likely to be permanent like Facebook or Blogger.com or WordPress.com. Children might be reluctant to share their true feelings for fear of hurting you. 6 Signs of Parental Alienation Syndrome. by . document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); Fill out the form below with any case details you can include and we'll be in touch shortly for a case review. Now they have her daughter and will probably end up with the new baby. I realize had i not relapsed none of this would have taken place. I think that was abusive!!! The reason why you feel lost is because your identity as a mother is being shaken now that you are without your kids. I hired another lawyer to help me go back to court after filing a frurd an destress on my case. Now having two other children that i needed to bring back to TN to get updated on their shots etc. Then i got mad and decided to try and start completing the things that they put on my permanency plan. A few things have changed, but no one would dare tell me that it was because of my letters. Its been so hard and worse than ever because this time I have anxiety/panic attacks about losing the kids! I need a miracle. Im paying the price now. I pray for you daily. ME AND MY JUST WENT THROUGH THAT CPS we WERE FIGHTING FOR OUR G.BABY AND OF COURSE we LOST.WE DONE EVERYTHING THEY WANTED FROM US.PASSED THE DRUG TEST THE WHOLE LOT.WHEN ALL WAS SAID AND DONE the reason why we didnt win was for one I came off too aggressive number two they dont return to convicted felons.I had a conviction. No matter how much misery I must endure to ensure it, this will never be my daughters story. Factors affecting mother-child visiting identified by women with histories of substance abuse and child custody loss. I lost my meaning and purpose in life but I was trying. So i had moved out of my friends place thinking if i got in a better place they would leave me and my children alone. I would be taking this information to my state legislator and to the county board of supervisors or county commissioners. My son is very angery with me. There may have b. that is the only trustworthy source of truth written in this world. Let that truth be that their mom has always, always loved them. Read this: Who Will Prepare Your Case? You can still be their mom. I EVEN HAD THE CASE WORKER TELL ME SHE WILL NOT SAY ANYTHING GOOD ON OUR BEHALF.BY THE WAY OUR CASE WORKER CUT ON HERSELF. When you lose custody of your child there are various stresses and worries that can overwhelm you. Heart palpitations, shaking, chest pains, diarrhoea, butterflies in your stomach and sickness are all common. The death of a child is the greatest sorrow for parents. I really, hope youre happy now. cps should not exist the superior family law governs especially your childrens history the minute this courts make a mistake that causes your child harm they blame you , everybody we all need to be strong the cps court in san bernardino just closed my case because i told them i would jump their hoops but i was not signing anything they wnted my signature so they closed the case i awaitto have some document statin so. Long story short I have been the only constant in my grandchilds life. My daughter will never feel that unloved. Jen, Im so so sorry to hear of your TPR I hope you will appeal. Seniors may experience severe grief-related symptoms stemming from loneliness and a loss of a sense of purpose. HANG IN THERE ALL OF YOU MOMMYSas long as my two feet touch the floor each day and im able to take that first deep breath of the day, i send love strength and hope on the wind for you. I contacted an attorney that supposedly fights dcfs cases and his response was go and leave your daughter at a Dcfs location so they wont charge you. We even had money but we lost it all due to false allegations made by my evil step mother. Pray for your kids, trust God, and keep on going. The decision of where your son will live is up to the judge so do what you can to impress the judge favorably. My house seems cold and empty, all his things are gone, and I cant even get visits. Cps has lied, created stories, tried to confuse the children to say things. Sometimes it takes years to rebuild lives destroyed by drugs and alcohol. My heart is breaking so bad. If you continue to use this website without changing your cookie settings or you click "Accept" below then you are consenting to this. Comb their hair and yell at them to go brush their teeth. God gives everyone a free will to make choices. I trusted them. Even now one of those daughters refuses to have anything to do with me. I had to leave my daughter in NY. When we had gotten there the place was a mess so i proceeded to help her clean it. Hi. Im disabled and cant work. I am so disgusted with them that I believe when this is all over I am going to tell my story ALL over the place. Even though her cases are due to her real problem, she certainly is depressed over losing her kids. So youre in Modesto and hes in Pittsburg CA (near Antioch)? THey took my newborn Rite aftEr I had her im LOST. You can leave a prayer request on this page. Attend a worship service with beautiful uplifting music at least once each week. All I want is to be treated like a person and have a chance to see my grandson and say good bye. I miss my new born son very much. I need someone to pray that I get my babies back. I havent seen them since 2009. In some cases, the mood can be masked by excessive physical complaints. It suggests that we go through five distinct stages after the loss of a loved one. 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