I dont think this is going to change and I am bereft about it. Help! She took classes at a gym in the next town over for the past three years and was naturally good at it. Americas Strangest Household Obsession Is Roaring Back. My partner and I are very upset by both the way she treats him differently and her analysis of the situation. Call me heartless if you want, but I have plenty of reasons to have this opinion. We see her family a lot more than we see mine, and we have a good relationship with them. They have insurance so the basement restoration will happen. My mother-in-law moved in with us in August, for the foreseeable future, and my partner and I have noticed that she treats the 5-year-old differently than she did the others at the same age, especially when it comes to discipline. Dear Care and Feeding, Shell go so far as to contradict her own self if it means not only disagreeing, but demeaning and degrading me for my opinions. I told him I just wanted them to have a couple of hours out of the house and obviously the baby hadnt been THAT hungry if he kept refusing bottles. Thank you in advance. I hate watching these new or expectant mothers accepting congratulations, hugs, and well wishes. Your temper and outbursts really had a negative impact on my life, and its taking all of the courage I can muster as a grown adult to talk to you about this today. 'The Signal Man' is a short story written by one of the world's most famous novelists, Charles Dickens. Have a question for Care and Feeding? But my son said that for now theyd like some space, and hed like me to apologize to my DIL when we do get together. In the meantime, I wish you fortitude. There are two new voices behind Care and Feeding, Slate's parenting advice column, who are going to offer a wide range of guidance to curious and concerned parents. Intentions arent everything. I spent my whole childhood walking on eggshells to not piss him off. Let them know that you can see how unhappy their marriage is (you can offer chapter and verse), that its making you miserable to be living in the midst of it, and that you want them to know that you would be happier and overall much better off if they separated. Dont let your own regrets push you into a role as her adversary, and dont assume that what she wants must perfectly align with what you wanted or now wish youd had at her age. He likes gloveslet him play with gloves. We have a 3-year-old son, and we love the family name we picked for him. Have a question for Care and Feeding? Have a question for Care and Feeding? ); if thats not possible, ask him not to disturb you when you are in a session. My wife (26) and I (24) are expecting our first kid. Well-intentioned friends make comments like, Wow! The thing is, Im also really worried about my dads health. Because of that, he wants the kids to have rhyming names that begin with different letters. Your letter was largely about other considerations, thoughnamely, your own wants and opinionsso lets focus on the lede you semi-buried here: Your own college experience wasnt what you hoped it would be. Sometimes, this is great (hes really into Raina Telgemeier). (@carvellwallace) Interview Highlights. Slate is published by The Slate Group, a Graham Holdings Company. The fact remains that the onus falls upon your dad to get his life in order, and if you can convince him to do that, then everything actually will be OK. We have tried instilling the fact that her inside beauty is more important than the outside. Many parents feel this way (and its often true, too). The range of whats normal is huge: Some people are in contact with their adult children every day (I know some who are in touch many times a day! In the meantime, I wouldnt mention anything about her sexuality unless she opens up to you. Shes had obvious crushes on people of all sorts throughout her life, from her buff neighbor, captain of her schools mens hockey team, to her eye doctors female receptionist intern to her best friends older brother. I dont think having young kids when hes this old helped his health (my oldest sibling is 10 years older than me and has a 4-year-old, meaning my youngest sister is the same age as her nephew). My adult daughter (25) and her husband (27) are not thriving. Care and Feeding is Slate's parenting advice column. Its anonymous! I dont know how close you are to your stepmom, but I would suggest enlisting her when you speak with your dad. Dear Care and. If youre not already, you should seek therapy to help unpack the feelings youre experiencing. Discuss this column in the Slate Parenting Facebook group! Submit it here or post it in the Slate Parenting Facebook group. I am intimately familiar with trying to replace she doesnt want to talk to me with shes busy, and I learned a long time agolong before I had a grown-up daughter, back when I was the grown-up daughter and my father wouldnt think twice about sending me the sort of link (if hed known how to send a link) you sent your kidthat if you want to have a good relationship with adult children, you should assume competency and never offer advice unless asked for it. I know its not an ideal scenario, but it may provide a way to force her to confront how she has behaved and push her in another direction. Each day they do a different task with their word list. Do whatever you can not to insert yourself into it. Id also find out more about why shes considering commuting to collegeshe must have her reasons, and maybe some of those are reasons you could try to understand and respect, even if you still dont agree. Writing into Slate's "Dear Prudence" advice column, the . Since hes started to do better with bottles (hes breastfed and previously had been refusing bottles), she agreed (if nervouslyand I did have to make the offer multiple times). I Despise My In-Laws. His reaction varies if his request is granted. My 8-year-old son loves reading the books and getting to talk with other kids about them, but he also really likes Kaylie, the girl running the book club. She needs to hear and understand how seriously upset you and your partner are about this, and that it is unacceptable to specifically target your youngest child and discipline him in ways that you, his parents, dont find appropriate. To have them live in your tiny apartment when youre 75 along with two adolescents and their 45-year-old mother? Care and Feeding is Slate's parenting advice column. Slate is published by The Slate Group, a Graham Holdings Company. Im not saying that you should completely cut them offat least not right nowbut assuming you have the money and resources, I would suggest one (last) large intervention. Dear Care and Feeding, My daughter is beautiful. Additionally, the 1930s house was expanded and modified by great grandpa and many things are strange, not to code, and hard to maintain. Submit it here or post it in the Slate Parenting Facebook group. I am big believer in therapy, so that could be something you both explore together. I have given this advice before to others: I would give your daughter three to six months to find a job and a place to stay, or else youll have to throw them out. But hes been telling us that hes in love with her, like you and Dad. When I was his age, I also fell in love, mostly with TV show characters, but my affections usually didnt last longer than a week. Slate is published by The Slate Group, a Graham Holdings Company. Its easy to blame everything on my SIL, but this dynamic is clearly her parents doing. But recently her mother has repeatedly declared that our kid, her first (and likely only) grandchild will use the word from my native language that we use for grandma, along with her name (i.e., Grandma X). My Ex Wants Us to Vacation Like One, Big, Happy Family. I honestly dont know. I have two beautiful daughters. I Despise My In-Laws. Submit it here or post it in the Slate Parenting Facebook group.. Dear Care and Feeding, How do I set up a happy life for my family while Im secretly harboring such anger and resentment? Sure, theres a chancebut what if she actually harbored some dark thoughts and acted on them? You have to use headphones.". Care and Feeding is Slates parenting advice column. Photo by Getty Images Plus. Is it inappropriate of me to take her to Morgans funeral as a learning experience. But he didnt want that one either. How do we gently shut this down if it comes down to it? Slate Plus members getmoreCare and Feedingevery week. But if your confronting them goes nowhere, take heart: Youve got only four years left of living in this battleground. I just accepted a new job, an exciting career opportunity for me, about a 2-hour drive away from our home in a big city. countries. Nelson's Column had gone and there would be no outcry, because there was no one left to make an outcry. Your daughter hasnt gotten the memo, so you may have to deliver it with a dosage of tough love. Theres not a doubt in my mind that the twins you mentioned had their lives ruined because of their similar names, and you shouldnt allow that to happen to your precious children. Running the risk of sounding dismissive, I have a strong feeling that the same will be the case for your son. I have a good relationship with both kids, who are now teenagers, and I know that they take most of what their mom says with a big grain of salt. On a handful of occasions, I have been her target, something she has never acknowledged or apologized for. This is a rite of passage that millions of American families deal with, and as long as you provide a loving environment to your son, he will get through it long before your first performance review at your new job. I am a working mother of three amazing kids. Weve tried to speak with her, individually and together, and have not gotten anywhere. Submit it here or post it in the Slate Parenting Facebook group. Sometimes its in response to little things, like a line for the bathroom or a movie she likes being taken off Netflix, other times its a reaction to more major setbacks, like not getting the grade she wants on a test or not making a sports team. Is it inappropriate of me to take her to Morgans funeral as a learning experience? And you should project yourself right out of this equation. She is an adult. Hes a loving man so she stays and I understand how tough that would be. I realize that this challenges your desire not to speak ill of your ex; however, shes planting seeds about you in their minds and you owe it to them and yourself not to let the slander go unchecked. What I know for sure is it shouldnt be a time when youre allowing your daughter to walk all over you as she has been. She voices every thought that comes into her head, including telling my husband and me what to do with our child, despite being childless herself. If you missed Tuesdays Care and Feeding column, read it here. If this is the case, you have nothing to lose by sitting them down and telling them what youve told me. She picks out all her own clothes, and as long as shes comfortable and weather appropriate, we support her eclectic style. Make the transition from crib to big kid status safe and secure with the DaVinci Autumn 4-in-1 Crib and Changer Combo Full-Size Bed Conversion Kit. Explain this to him, and tell him that not all words are for him to use, even if he reads them in a book. Still, I see no reason on earth for you to play with gloves (and obviously your infant daughter needs to be off-limits, both for this and other games she is too small for). Including the parenting and rules I have for her children. Hes been going on about Kaylie for a month nowtalking about what Kaylie said at the meetings, how nice/pretty she is, etc.and Im starting to get concerned. Your baby is HUGE!. From now on Nelson's Column only existed in his mind. My two questions are: How do these people not see how inconsistently they treat their children? (Questions may be edited for publication.). Dear Care and. It is beyond ridiculous, and I am sick of it. When I peek at him, he is just trying them onit may just be a sensory thing. Lately, I have been teaching my 6-year old daughter about death and grieving. Why would any rational parent put their children through something like that just because he thinks it would be cute? You are within your rights to help your kid find books thatll be good for him right now; you arent going to be monitoring his reading forever. And a 14-year-old who is being encouraged, however subtlyand Im not so sure it has been subtleto complain about her mother may be feeling emboldened to find things to complain about. She took the baby and left the room to feed him. I expect youll eventually find that you have others in your corner, friends who will relate to and understand and support your family, who will care enough to learn what they dont know, who will see and love and celebrate your child and all of you as you are. Uh, No Thanks. Care and Feeding Care and Feeding is Slate's parenting advice column. Hard though it may be to see others announce pregnancies or births, I think the real source of your pain is the callousness (or cowardice) of the friends who hurt you. They mostly manage because they have no mortgage, although when an unexpected expense comes up I often pitch in. Charlie was recently asked to analyze an interactive piece of art for school. All rights reserved. Friends either ignored us or avoided conversations about our new baby. My stepdaughter, Daisy, is 14 and we have a good relationship. Ive heard testimony from numerous twins that this is not a good idea because it makes it harder for them to create an identity. I have met this friend-of-a-friend at a few parties, but we have never been very close, and I have never interacted with the brother. And thats not easy. This should absolutely be a hill you should die on. It Was Surreal to Accept It. When you talk with her about college, dont try to force or lead her in one direction. Ill say this as kindly as possible: Assuming she doesnt have any major physical or mental illnesses/disorders, your daughter and her kids have to go. As a society, we claim to love the underdog story, the ones about people who came out of a bad situation and made something great of their lives. We did dishes so the kitchen sink could be used to wash our hands, piles of laundry so we could access the washer to wash wet items from the basement, and picked up five bags of trash and four of recycling so we could walk around the house. This may also help give you confidence around speaking with your dad. While the columnist tries to talk the distressed relative off the ledge with words of calm just back away slowly . Or (for all you know) they have, to no avail. You know she loves you, dont you? All rights reserved. Whether or not her mom overindulges her, wanting to pick which college she goes to and where she lives hardly makes your daughter a spoiled brat. Discuss this column in the Slate Parenting Facebook group! All contents 2023 The Slate Group LLC. Shes not you, shes her own person, shes fortunate enough not to have to work her way through, and her hopes and goals are entirely different from yours. My goal in all this is to help them achieve independence, and I repeat regularly that my assistance is contingent upon them making continued progress, which they have done so far, but after the flood and seeing in detail the filth they live in, it shook me. Submit your questions about parenting and family life here. My Ex Wants Us to Vacation Like One, Big, Happy Family. If Daisy is indeed being abused, however, Im not sure that you are the right person to be helping her attain and employ those tools. Uh, No Thanks. She makes every visit to my husbands parents home excruciating. My Daughter-in-Law Is Blowing Up Over the Tiniest Little Thing. Explain that you know its difficult for them to hear these things about you and that you dont want them to be caught in the drama between you and your ex, but that you have no choice but to defend yourself. Theyre each individually nice people, but they are absolutely TERRIBLE together. Photo illustration by Slate. What are parents of bisexual teens supposed to do about sleepovers? Still, I worry that when someone hears a lie over and over, a person can start to believe it is true. All contents 2023 The Slate Group LLC. Its anonymous! Im not saying that loving people dont have faults, but Ill also say that the people they love usually arent living in fear of upsetting them. Photo illustration by Slate. Shes so lucky youre her daughter! My son is 20 and applying for internships for the summer. To ask a school-related question to our panel of teachers, email. Its completely ridiculous and selfish in my eyes. But like I said, I really dont think it will come to any of that. World United States United Kingdom Canada Australia South Africa Israel India France Belgium Switzerland. Care and Feeding is Slate's parenting advice column. How Do I Get Them to Back Off? At the young age of four, she can be downright stunning. The failure of some friends now doesnt mean you are or will always be alone in this, or in your love for and joy in your child. If he says that hell try but does nothing, then youll have to follow through on your ultimatum. If you need to talk, or if you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, text theCrisis Text Lineat 741-741 or call or text 988 to reach theSuicide & Crisis Lifeline. And if you and your wife decide together that you dont like her mothers plan, being honest with her is the best way forward. Slate is published by The Slate Group, a Graham Holdings Company. ), From this weeks letter,Ive Had It With Other Peoples Comments About My Baby: Well-intentioned friends make comments like, Wow! Let your husband and son spend time with them without you. Now I see my mom still living that life. If your goal is to help them to achieve a level of independence, it will never happen if you keep swooping in to save them. She got pregnant, so I swallowed my pride and wholeheartedly accepted Teddy into our now four-person abode. If he asks you to put on a pair of gloves, dont worry so much about being neutral. Just say I dont want to/need to put on gloves right now and go about your business. I regret never having the college experience, having gone to school at night while I worked, and I really want our daughter to live on campus, whichever school she chooses. Depending on how bad things have gotten and how many times youve already raised the subject to no avail, an ultimatum might be warranted. Nelson's Column had gone! Dear Care and. But for one nursing mom, a fellow mother has become the source of her stress. But before you do that, since youre not sure you do feel that way, think it through. He gagged and spit up. Theres no percentage in arguing with them about it. Help us keep giving the advice you crave every week. Indeed, she was ambivalent, at best, about going in the first place. I think your depression is casting a shadow over everything and will continue to until you get the help you need and deserve. Photo illustration by Slate. What you do not want to do is make them responsible for your feelingsi.e., dump your feelings on them. My dad is in his 60s now and is starting to deal with a lot of the consequences of his age. Let your husband know you need privacy when youre on a phone or video session with your therapist. And I would say that Daisy needs to be talking to a therapist without her mother present as well as undergoing therapy with her. For her 40th birthday, they gave her a very expensive watch. Speaking from experience as someone who has been on the receiving end of an intervention, I found that it is much more effective when more than one person is there to deliver a harsh truth. Im convinced there will be a lot of joy in your familys future, not because everything will be easy, but because you love your kids unconditionally and want to give them all happy, fun, fulfilling childhoods. Photo illustration by Slate. Heck, I would even go to a marriage counselor or therapist with this but dont give in. I am 100 percent certain that this dynamic existed long before you entered the family. How can I support Slate so I can keep reading all the advice from Dear Prudence, Care and Feeding, Ask a Teacher, and How to Do It? Close the door. Is there something about your relationship that you think could scare her from talking to you about her sexuality? He asks for privacy when he does, and I say sure. No, Im sorry. Of course, if you see that your son is showing major behavioral red flags for an extended period of time (acting out, violent behavior, self-harm, etc.) View more recently sold homes. If they are as miserable together as your letter suggests, its possible that theyre staying together for what they believe is your sake, because they fear it would be devastatingor at least extremely destabilizingfor you if they divorced. Recently, a flood of race-centered questions has taken center stage in the column. Image Credit: James Gardiner Collection via Flickr Creative Commons. He is generally happy, though definitely not an easygoing child. Submit it here or post it in the Slate Parenting Facebook group. Hes been sneaky about it too, suggesting names like Isabelle and Eleanor, before suggesting we give them the nicknames Belle and Elle. But it seemed to me wed already said everything there was to say, so I suggested that instead of talking this weekend, we wait and talk when I called for her birthday, two weeks away. Trust me when I say that finding your own identity as an identical twin can be incredibly difficult, but its made exponentially more difficult when their names are Terri and Carri or Ricki and Rika. Most of the time you hear of parents who each have ideas for names that the other parent always shoots down. They've tried counseling and nothing seems to work. Conversation in general isnt easy for me, so I dont enjoy phone calls. She has been publishing "Nicole Knows," a potpourri of beauty, pop culture and general life observations and advice since February 2018. then you should take the requisite steps to get him the help he needs. You absolutely do owe her an apology, and it had better be a heartfelt one. And how do we support him as he struggles? Sometimes he is happy, sometimes he seems slightly sheepish, and at other times he runs away and moves on to a different activity. But when Daisy asks me why she should continue to try to have a relationship with this awful woman, I just want to tell her to stay far away from her. I would cry, avoid, and hed eventually apologize and say hed try harder. Have a question for Care and Feeding? Their parents have always allowed this now 45-year-old woman to act and talk this way. Yesterday, one of my stepbrothers and the older of my half sisters told me that they were really scared that Dad was going to die soon. My Daughter-in-Law Is Blowing Up Over the Tiniest Little Thing. Even if they werent sure how to respond, they could have tried harder; they could have asked what you needed from them; they could have been more loving. I cant speak to your relationship with your husband because youve said little about it. Charlie did not use any of the teacher's examples, and instead wrote a paper . Dear Care and Feeding, I have a 14-year-old son, "Charlie.". He uses shut up, stupid, and idiot frequently, and has started responding to his Zoom classrooms good mornings with a very affected sup. He doesnt really have other social interactions right now, so hes not picking these up from other kids. He was raised by his great grandparents and when they passed three years ago, my son-in-law inherited that house, where all 4 had been living. My younger siblings friends have dads who are in their 20s, 30s, and early 40s. Submit your questions about parenting and family life here. I assured her wed be fine and sent them on their way. Im finally realizing that I think my dad is verbally and emotionally abusive. Submit it here or post it in the Slate Parenting Facebook group. You and your husband need to make the most out of your lives, and I trust that you can do it.. But I think it is for the wrong reasons. Care and Feeding is Slate's parenting advice column. " Care and Feeding " is SLATE.com's parenting advice column where wannabe Woke parents write in to be chastised by a rotating group of SLATE staffers. They average a screaming match a day, often over completely idiotic stuff like one of them walking too fast for the other to keep up with, or cooking with cheese when the other has a dairy intolerance. Example: They are teaching students to do math a certain way, but he can do it in his head, so Whats the point of doing it like that if I can just do it and get the right answer my way? Same thing with spelling. 10. Its anonymous! If you cant manage a phone conversation, I would put your thoughts in a letter. ( @carvellwallace) Interview Highlights From Our Callers Al, from. (Again, Im not going to weigh in on this, because its nobodys business but her own. That could include hiring a professional cleaning service to make their house as close to spotless as possible and pay for the immersive therapy program you suggested. You dont say much about Daisys father, which seems curious to meI cant figure out how he fits into these conversations about Daisys reluctance to spend time with her mother, what his relationship with his daughter is like, or what he has to say about his exs relationship with their daughter before the Solomonic splitting of herbut he needs to be brought into the conversation now. My daughter's friends tell me I look great I was about 17 at the time " I've been searching for my father my whole life and through 23a slate advice columns care and feedingconejos river outfittersconejos river outfitters I went to school, played sports, met new people, and figured it all out without any catastrophes. ( 26 ) and her analysis of the time you hear of parents who each have ideas for names begin. 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